If you read my blog or have been stalking my life on social media, then you probably know that May, 2015 I quit my job. It was a place that I loved, with some people that I adored but I felt like I preferred sanity over the work environment that I was in. Since then, I have learned tons of lessons about the work place and the way HR works(since I'm now in HR) and I figured I would share some of that wisdom (or lack of through trial and error) with you guys.
1. Every Company Thinks You're Replaceable.
We have this notion that if we don't show up to work, that the earth will melt and swallow everyone whole except for us and force us to be the ones to un-melt it when we arrive in the morning. That is not the case. To put it in perspective, the company has survived before you and will survive after you. It doesn't matter if you're the Queen of FIFO or the Hamburgular of burgers, you are indeed replaceable and they will without a doubt replace your ass. When I said I was leaving, not one person batted an eye or even sat down to speak about changes within the organization. So despite what you think, nobody gives a shit about you. The question you need to ask yourself is what is the price of your sanity.
2. Do Not Go To Old Work Events
Big no. I found myself attending the Christmas party and getting so drunk, and I'm sure that everything is on camera which will be replayed for years to come. So no, that's not a good idea. You can convene with ex co-workers on your own time but not a function that everyone attends. You'll end up bringing up old feelings for the one or two people you despised and when mixed with liquor that's not a good thing.
3. People Can Feel Your Positivity
That whole exude positivity and become it is actually not bullshit. When I first quit, I questioned my rationale and my common sense. Like, who quits a job without a plan or at least a back up job with bills. However, I felt like I was at my lowest point and I couldn't go any lower. I did not let myself slip into my old bad habits when it came to my views about employment including but not limited to giving opinions that I'm not paid to give, and offering to do shit I'm not paid to do. Not to say that you are not allowed to go above and beyond at your job but understand that our worth is displayed in dollar amounts. Once you start doing shit not in your dollar amount, you open the flood gates to be used and abused and that is bad for your mental health. Understanding that concept and the way business owners actually think helped me to get through the majority of the workplace bullshit and laugh at the unfavorable stuff that came my way.
4. Be Vocal Without Being Emotional
Many times in the workplace people confuse passion for bat shit crazy. Being passionate for something doesn't require you to act like a mad person going around ranting and raving all day. You can express your grievances without becoming too damn emotional. Emotion does not get you far but being a well spoken, well thought individual does get you places.
5. Make Sure You Are Worth Your Employment Before You Complain
The biggest mistake I feel employees make in a company is finding time to complain about shit when they are not up to par in their job duties. For example, if you want to complain about upper management, please make sure you arrive to work on time, don't call out and actually do your job when you're there. If you complain about your job but you don't do the bare minimum of your job, you should probably just sit down. Your complaints are null and void if you are less than a model employee. While I was the money clerk at MCU (last year right after quitting), it was literally just a job to me. I showed up did the bare minimum and left. Because of my nonchalantness, I was in no position to request anything of management nor was I in a position to dictate what I think they should do. I stayed in my place.
6. Job Titles Without Responsibilities Are The Best Jobs to Have
My whole life, I've been obsessed with titles. Want to be the "manager", "key holder" "head receptionist" but a big fancy title comes with big fancy responsibilities some of those that usually follow you home. As a regular ass employee, I come in do my job and go the fuck home. I don't have to worry about getting texts on vacation or on my days off about something I could care less about. When the Mets season is over, I will go back to my job of handing out flyers for 5 hours a day. Yes, it's true the lower on the totem pole you go, the less you get paid BUT that's more mental space for you to attribute to other things that you actually care about and want to do!
WHY I QUIT MY JOB