There have been murmurs amongst about men in regards to a woman's role in today's household. When my grandmother was a young, chipper, single woman with four kids, she worked full time as a receptionist at Medgar Evers. She came home in enough time to cook for the kids. When she married her second husband, she became a full-time stay at home mom and care taker. Her house was always pristine, her kids ate breakfast at home and took lunch to school. Her husband took care of the house financially and her role was to hold down the home.
Fast forward to 2015, where women are responsible monetarily for partially or even fully carrying the entire household, the expectations need to be altered dramatically. A man can not expect a woman to work full time, have the house in tip top shape, and provide him with meals, suck his dick while he sits on his ass and points fingers. There's this notion stuck in millennial men's brains that women, even those who carry the entire household need to cook on a daily basis, have the house cleaned before he comes home (even if the woman arrives home after the man), and take care of the kids. They think their wives should be splitting images of what their moms/grandmothers were. This ideology is flawed because our mothers/ grandmothers were complacent. They weren't vocal about much including their role in the household, and what they wanted out of life. My grandmother sacrificed her life so her kids could have one. In today's society women aren't sacrificing! They are going back to school and becoming something, climbing the corporate ladder for the sake of achievements and their families. In the same breath, in comparison to 20 years ago today, men aren't providing the house's entire finances.
We have those nay sayers that say a stay at home mom is not a full time job. It is. There are plenty of days where I take care of Sai myself without daycare or company. He is a handful. He wants to play, learn, make a mess and he barely takes a nap. I spend the majority of the time sweeping his mess, making him food and teaching him something new. By the time 6 o clock comes, I'm pooped. His bedtime is at 9:30 so I have 3.5 more hours of the madness. My situation is different however, me taking care of Sai by myself is a rare occurrence since Corey has returned from Afghanistan. I am thankful to say that Corey and I's input ranges from 40/60 to 50/50. Unfortunately these numbers are extremely rare in other homes.
What I need is for the other men with these ideals to wake up or step up. Either you're providing for the majority of the household in which the partner cuts her hours at work, to work at home or you need to step up your role at home and help her out. Helping out doesn't have to be anything dramatic! Wash a cup, clean the bathroom, make the bed, sweep! Anything to assist. But if you're not waking up or stepping up, I need you to shut the fuck up and stop complaining!