Before we get into this post, please read the pre-requisite on Dr. Nona's Solaris lotion. It talks about the dead sea properties of this brand.
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When I was younger, I envisioned the process of me getting dressed when I became a woman based on what I saw the women in my family doing. Growing up without a mom was easy, my grandma raised me and she had tons of practice(5 kids and tons of grandchildren). She taught me how to wash properly and what to use since I had extremely sensitive skin. I was domesticated way before most women my age. I imagined that when I become of age and maybe married, I would have a boudoir equipped with my powder poof, the old school perfume bottle and my scented deodorant. Times have definitely changed but I've been seeking to get that old school sexiness back. That go to bed in your nighty and seduce your husband sexy. Dr. Nona's scents + deodorant has helped me get back to that place.
As a 27 year old woman, I can't stand the smell of powder underneath my arms. I'm a woman not a new born baby! Unfortunately, Secret or Sure doesn't provide sexy scents for grown woman. We can blame this on the fact that many girls start using deodorant from the ages of 8-13 so how sexy can a scent from those companies really get? Us millennial women have never taken that next step and graduated from our childish deodorant (I did use the Avon rollerball for a while but that was short lived as buying it just wasn't convenient). I never saw the appeal of using grown scents on my clothes, wrist and neck and then sacrificing the sexy for lotion and deodorant. To be completely truthful, we all know those lotions and body wash that come with our favorite perfumes wear off faster than a cheap date.
I've spent a couple of weeks with Dr. Nona's Fiona rollerball deodorant. Since having Sai, I am prone to being funky because I sweat so much even when I'm not doing anything strenuous so coverage is definitely important to me. (Another joy of motherhood!) On first impression, Dr. Nona's Fiona deodorant is heavily perfumed and kind of scary until you put it on. You can smell the scent for the first few minutes until it dries and then the scent tones down. The first time I used it, I put it on after putting on my shirt which was a bad idea because my black shirt became white. On the upside, unlike regular deodorant it wiped off easily and almost immediately. The fortunate part for you guys is that you get a full, honest review because I'm careless and clearly I don't read directions. LOL!
On to the good stuff! For my deodorants, there are four things that are extremely important to me.
1. I don't smell like death if I take a shower and forget to put it on.
2. If I shower at night, it must last throughout the next day
3. The underarms of my shirts must smell delicious
4. I don't get any lumps underneath my arm pit
Dr. Nona's passed all four of these tests. Especially the first one which is really important to me because I am always on the run (I like to think I live the life of Beyonce) and I definitely forget to put my deodorant on. The heavily perfumed smell is great to go to sleep with because I feel clean and smell great. Corey also appreciates the smells and snuggles underneath me. The deodorant promises protection up to 12 hours but I noticed for me it was good for up to 24 hours. I'm assuming it depends on your chemistry. The also have an anti-bacterial attribute in the deodorant which is also useful.
I have sensitive skin and certain soaps/fragrances irritate my skin. I have used Dr. Nona's on pretty much every part of my body with no problem. My favorite smell combo is the Fiona deodorant with the 1954 perfume and mixing that with the Solaris lotion. Sidenote: Corey also loved the mens deodorant and after shave(his review coming soon). I've gotten a few compliments on what perfume I was wearing and I'm all like, that's Dr. Nona's baby. If you have ordered from Avon, then you'll love Dr. Nona's and they make great stocking stuffers. The deodorant in Fiona is available on the Dr. Nona's site for $15.
Stay tuned for the review on their perfumes which I received in a gel form and I got my whole LIFE from them. I haven't used my Chloe perfume in a minute. Tweet me and let me know if you will try Dr. Nona's I'll try to get a discount code for you!
I met All Beauty Water at the Redlight PR press preview a couple of weeks back. The sun was shining, my hair was laid, lipstick was popping and it was a warm October day. I just knew I was going to find a gem that day. I've been talking to you guys about my lifestyle challenge in which I abandoned all of what I love, what I knew in hopes of a healthier body (preferably with a 4 pack).
Tucked away in the back of the press preview near the kitchen was Full Beauty. Full Beauty is created for a woman's nourishment and has tons of vitamins in it; crucial to combat aging and maintaining beautiful skin. It has Vitamins A, C, D, E, B12, B6, B3 and biotin. It also has calcium (you know that thing that gives us strong bones especially as we age), magnesium, and zinc. If that's not enough for you, it also includes two 8 ounces of water, 0 calories and absolutely no sugar(my favorite attribute).
Okay, now on to the good stuff. Beauty Water comes in three flavors: Pomegranate Rose, Strawberry Acai and Cucumber Aloe. I love Pomegranate so I decided to snag that flavor. I couldn't wait to taste it. My first impression of it was that it tasted smooth and refreshing without a gross after taste(my problem with Vitamin water). It was sweet without sugar and definitely a great alternative to the lemon water I've been drinking. When you're doing a lifestyle challenge, the best thing to do is to switch up the tastes and flavors so you don't get bored. This beverage is a great way to spice up your life without feeling mounds of guilt after. The fact that you get tons of vitamins in one bottle, especially Biotin (good for hair growth and glowing skin) is definitely an amazing added bonus.
I wonder if they would consider selling single bottles of this stuff, (commitment issues) just so you can figure out which flavor you love. But if you're adventurous, you can grab a case of this Jesus juice on amazon for $35. For less than the price of one bottle of vitamins you get about 10 of them + water. Well worth it.
I am the queen of cheap! New Years is coming up and my friends and I have decided to get dressed and go to Sparkle on New Years Day. So I've been looking for dresses that won't break the bank but I can still look fabulous. In my search, I went to Hot Miami Styles and found a beautiful gown for $200. I immediately went to Zaful and found a similar dress for a FRACTION of the price. It does not have the glitz on it but I will pay $40 to have the stones placed on it. That will make the dress still less than half of the one I looked at originally. See my choices below. If you click on this link, there will be an additional $$ off of any one of these dresses. #happyshopping
If you are my age (or around my age because I'm young as hell) then you have probably attended a housewarming or two recently. Housewarmings are a great way for people who are moving out on their own to acquire items they wouldn't be able to buy for themselves (due to obvious monetary reasons). I have teamed up with Domino and MobStub to provide you some classy and exceptional housewarming gifts that will be sure to get you invited to everyone's soiree.
If you have seen any of my gift guides, then you know I have impeccable taste. Some of these also double as great Christmas gifts. You're welcome!!
The normal sized world is a strange and scary place. First the world (your family, friends, spouse, society) shames you for having a little extra cushion on your rump, or too much softness in your tummy, and then you shame yourself because it seems like(nah more like it is like) no one makes clothes that flatter your shape. Basically, they tell you to just throw on a big ass garbage bag. (We'll pass thanks) It's hard to love the skin you're in when you feel absolutely frumpy the moment you step foot outside. There are heroes in this game and then there are superheroes like Full Beauty.
Last week I ventured to their NYC headquarters to spend some time with them and take a peak at the new collection. I fell in love with some pieces(they were hitting) but plus sized doesn't mean unfashionable! (Look at my homegirl Lily)
Bare with me image wise, I promise will get my camera back soon! Also, my damn iPhone died midway through looking at the collections so the sportswear, shoes, and accessories I will update in a later post.
*December 2016 Update
I've changed the products I use and my regimen.
I've completely switched to Eden's Body Works for my co-wash and deep conditioner. I use V05 when I feel like I have too much product build up which doesn't happen often because I don't use tons of products. I haven't had to use the L'Oreal straightening conditoner since I switched to Eden's Body Works which is incredible. I still use the same flat iron and blow dryer though. I went back to Dax grease and Razac's perfect for perms to keep my hair moisturized in between washes. My hair is approximately, 1.5 inches from waist length. Eden's Body Works Deep Conditioner has also replaced Camille Rose for stretching my edges. A little water and head tie and voila!
We all knew there would come a day where we would have to talk about my hair care regimen. I've been asked several times and after putting it off forever, I have decided to come clean about my hair care life. I've been natural for 3 years after my best friend Boobie and I decided to venture into this new lifestyle together. I kept that creamy crack on standby because I found myself saying "DIS TEW MUCH" way too often. One day as I was washing my hair, those single strand knots were relentless. They got the best of me. I chopped all but an inch of my hair off. I went into hiding for a few months. Refused to take pictures. I looked like Dora, but I learned a lot about the way the world truly works and the way people perceived me. Going natural was one of the best things I have ever done. In 2014, being pregnant accelerated my hair growth by 200% only to have every single edge in sight to just fall out on me. Life, give me a damn break. I decided not to cut my hair off last year and I just wore a middle part. Look where I am now! Okay, let's get down to business.
I am by no means what you call a "product junkie". The less shit I have to use the better. Luckily for me, I keep finding amazing products that blow my mind and occasionally, I step out of my regimen to try something new.
Here's what my normal arsenal consists of and their purpose to my soul:
v05 conditioner: Anyone because it's cheap, they all smell good and I like to lather it on for fun.
OGX conditioner: Favorite scents Awapuhi ginger, coconut or Moroccan argan oil, I use this as my main conditioner for detangling. I buy these in bulk because I use them generously and I also use them as deep conditioners.
Aussie 3 Minute Miracle: Only one scent, I use this conditioner sparingly because the bottle is super little and I only use it for super crazy, knotty, tangled hair. Think, wash and go and you just kept going... For weeks.
Johnson & Johnson: shampoo for when I need to strip the gunk products out of my hair.
Missiko flat iron (8 years strong baby)
Conair Yellow bird blow dryer (This shit right here!)
For buns & flat edges:
Camille Rose almond Jai twisting butter + a little eco styler + water and a head tie = magic.
Once I straighten my hair, I do not flat iron it again because it's so unnecessary. It damages your hair this is a known fact. If your hair poofs up just let it go. A flat iron is a convenience because you can achieve the same results without using heat, it just takes time. When you get home, wrap your hair or put it in a ponytail and lay your edges down. You'll be fine I promise.
The day after I blow dry my hair I usually put it in a bun or curl it with flexi-rods and rollers. It stretches my hair even further than the blow dryer does and then on day 3 or 4 I determine whether or not I need to flat iron my hair. If I do, for the first 3 days, I'll wrap it. The next 3 or 4 days I'll curl it and the remainder of the time it will be in buns or a pony until my next wash.
I only wash my hair with shampoo when I see product build up otherwise, I do co-washes. So if I put conditioner in my hair and it doesn't lather, it's prob time for me to shampoo it. Occasionally I'll put olive oil in my hair as a deep conditioner when the seasons change because I get bad dandruff(and dry feet) and olive oil prevents it from showing. I do have to admit that from like June to the beginning of August my hair runs wild like a horse. I barely comb it. I detangle when I feel like and I definitely don't straighten. One simply does not have the time to deal with natural hair and summer humidity.
I also got some other questions about my hair dye. I bleached my hair earlier this year. It was bleached last year using a box dye and I put the Adore hot pink rinse in it. To get that out, I used baking soda. Then I bleached using Clairol BW2 and 40 developer and some shit the Korean man gave me at the beauty supply store. He specifically told me to mix it in with the bleach otherwise my hair would fall out. Not sure why I trusted him but I did and voila! I then lifted the color with Wella( cause it was orangey) and then took away the brassy-ness with purple shampoo. I know I have mad skills. You're probably surprised that I still have hair. I am as well. LMFAO. It just goes to show you if I can do it you can too. Right now, I have two colors both by Adore a baby blue and a midnight blue which creates a nice ombre until I wash my hair and then it turns green. I expect to be all midnight blue by January and prob purple by March.
If you're scared of the big bad bleach, you can use box dyes. It might take you 3 sessions over the course of 5 or 6 months to safely do it but if you're skeptical then that's the way for you. I've done both methods and I much prefer using the professional bleach only because if you wait too long with the box dye, you will have more than one hair color maybe several. And that's not acceptable Peggy.
Here's some things you should know about the products of my past that haven't made it to the team
CHI - Hair protectant, NOT MADE FOR BLACK HAIR
Kinky Kurly Knot Today - Was terrible for blowing my hair out. Made it hard and crunchy.
Any body's edge control - It's a terrible pomade that sticks to your edges and eventually pulls them out.
Aussie Moisture Conditioner - It just nuh mek it.
Dominican Magic - Smelled so good, but all those cones did my hair dirty. STIFF like a rock!
Shea Moisture - Too damn expensive
NO BLACK GEL EVER!
I think that covers about everything. Below is a pictorial story from struggle to sexy then back to struggle and now sessssssyyy. Drop a line if you have questions.
I CAME AND I CRIED.
Not out of disgust or pleasure but sheer curiosity. Why am I masturbating when I live with my spouse? Co-habitating is difficult. He aired his grievances to me recently, repeatedly. I've been working hard to keep up with the things that were important to him and I feel that my priority needs just fell by the wayside.
I really look to Google to answer life's toughest questions. "What's the weather?" "Why won't my baby sleep?" "What should I cook for dinner?" For this question, Google has told me everything from he's upset about finances, or he's really just too tired and my favorite, he's having an affair. Most of the problems in my life seem to have simple solutions but there's no solution in sight for this one.
Truth be told, we've have arguments and he's said things that he claims he didn't mean. I've said things that I did mean. In the back of my head, I can only think about those hurtful things that stand out like a sore thumb. He no longer loves me. He's just staying because I had the baby. I have that tiny voice in the back of my head telling me to keep my guard up, get my shit together and always be on my toes.
Is it fair to live my life based on the unknown? Corey has threatened to leave me on multiple occasions for the dumbest shit but not once through any of my discontentness have I fixed my lips to leave, talk to another person or even thought about cheating. Does my undying faithfulness make me a target for being neglected?
Things in my life are far from perfect. I'm partially employed, the bills are piling up, I can't carry the laundry to the laundromat, but somehow I still have a glimmer of hope. I have an amazing one year old, I clean the house, I cook, I started my lifestyle challenge, I'm eloquent, intelligent, read tons of books, I have great style and I'm family/goal oriented. To me focusing on the things I can change will create a way for the other stuff to change through that whole positive universe shit. So far it's been working.
I don't need tons of his time. We both live separate lives and the only time we're home alone together is 9:30pm- whenever he falls asleep which is usually by 10:30. It's a rainy day in NYC. I'm going to cook a fantastic dinner, clean the house, make some candles, throw on some fishnets and see if he can make me cry tonight.
This post was prompted by tons of stuff that's been going on in my life but mainly the stuff that has not been going on. It's the stuff that all of us proclaim that we'll get to but never do and of course, the reasons that we don't; the excuses. If you've been reading this blog since August, then you know that my excuses have been the disdain of my existence. I have had all types of excuses for everything in my life. Job? No, the market is terrible. Hate my body? Baby's fault. Partner texting another girl? He's not loyal. Lost a sponsorship? My phone sucks.
For years, I was avoiding the root of the problem which was myself. It is much easier to blame failure on the weather or something/someone else. It's harder to take accountability for where you fall short. Stop the excuses and start figuring out how to do shit. We all have the power of the internet at our fingertips and if you truly want to do something, google it. Click on some articles, find someone to be your inspiration. My current inspiration is Maya Elious who epitomizes my work smarter not harder mantra. I aspire to be better than her but I love her motivation.
The first step is turning your excuses into a question about yourself.
- What qualities do I possess that is a turn off to potential employers?
- What can I do to achieve the body that I want if I'm unhappy with mines now?
- Have I not been paying attention to my spouse? Is that why he's seeing attention elsewhere?
- Where can I cut back on my expenses so that I can afford a better phone or camera?
The minute you cut the shit and stop the excuses is the moment that your mental space is lifted and you can actually focus on getting to the finish line. Since I started taking accountability, good shit started falling into my lap. The moves I used to dream about making, I'm actually doing and it will only get better.
If you read my post on rejection, I utilized the same principles and applied it to my every day life. There's always going to be a reason not to do something, but what's your motivation to get it?