How to Keep Home Life Balanced When Working A Non-traditional Job
Money, money, money. It's the motive, the mantra, the reason for the season. In our chase for money, we sometimes neglect the other aspects of our lives. I am definitely included in that bracket, cough, cough. I left my traditional 9-5 job in search of something more fulfilling and less demanding. As of right now that happens to be hospitality. Working in the hospitality industry has allowed me to condense my work in short periods of time over the span of 6 months rather than working an entire year. That allows me to write and work on other endeavors(float centers, candle businesses, shoe businesses and of course RayeSocial.com while I'm not required to be at work. However working for 10 and 12 day stretches can wreak havoc on your body and your home life especially if you have a spouse/children.
There was already slight tension in my relationship and the last year, my schedule for the Brooklyn Cyclones added fuel to the fire. Both daddy and baby were sound asleep when I reached home (usually around 2 or 3 am) and were gone by the time I awoke. I attempted to keep a happy medium by doing the following:
Making the Most Out of Days Off
It's a no brainer that after 7 consecutive 9 hour plus days the only thing you want to do on your off day is take a fucking nap. However don't do it. Stay active! Your spouse will have feelings of resentment and being overwhelmed. Do something small, a load of laundry, cleaning the bathroom, light grocery shopping or prepare a meal before your spouse comes home. That will alleviate some of the frustration and tension and your effort will be appreciated.
Waking Up Early to Get Ready With Them
I found myself not seeing Corey or Sai at all at one point which quickly prompted me to get my ass up to see them off or take Sai to school on my off days. Even if I saw them for only 20 minutes, at least they saw my face and not the covers over my head. You can always catch up on sleep but you can't get precious memories back.
Requesting a Weekend Day Off Once a Month
There's that New York City law that mandates paid days off as long as you have a written request for it. You definitely need to learn to take advantage of that. Realizing that the world will not crumble if you don't go to work is also crucial in mustering up the courage to call out/ requesting off when you feel too burnt out.
Helping Prepare Everyone for the Next Day
Imagine if your spouse wakes up to see lunch already portioned out or a text that saying I made you lunch love have a great day. Or if you pick out the little one's clothes before the morning or iron your spouses outfit which is already laid out on the couch. It's the small things that make the biggest impressions. Don't forget that!
Doing Personal Stuff on A Schedule
Having a non-traditional job means you have time that the rest of the world doesn't have. Try to knock out your personal errands (grooming, shopping, etc) while the rest of your house hold is out for the day. That way you drastically increase time spent with them and cut back on unnecessary conflict.
How do you deal with the pressures of working and keeping home? Tweet me @rayesocial and let me know!