At every new stage in my life, I need some adjustment time to get used to the changes. Whether it's quitting a job, getting a new one, having a baby or moving, you have to give yourself time to get back in the rhythm of your life, getting back to your normal spirit.
Working for the Mets has been more than exciting and a tad overwhelming. But, life wouldn't be life if it was perfect and there were no curve balls thrown. My best friend moved to another state. Having her so close to me (she lived 4 blocks away), I have to credit her with helping me hold on to my sanity even if it was by a thin ass string. This post is dedicated to anyone who might be starting something new in their life and need words of encouragement.
Change doesn't always have to be inevitable.
I believe there's a designated time for everything and not everything has to change. Change is something that comes from within and isn't always due to outside factors.
Crying is OKAY.
Crying for me, has always been a wonderful release when I'm way too stressed. It allows me to clear my chakras of any bad energy and start anew whether it's today, tomorrow or next week.
People should know how you feel.
The older I become, the more I realize that people aren't mind readers. We always think that other people are just supposed to know us/ our tendencies without ever offering up that information. Communication should be key for this month. Try being vocal repeatedly, even if you sound like a broken record. We all have different lives and endure various things throughout the day so don't take it personal if you have to repeat yourself multiple times.
It's okay to say no.
Some of us (myself included) are so eager to please the people in our lives. We are also very self conscious about how we appear to other people. Because of our fear of not being seen in a positive light, we often say yes, when we know deep down we should've said no.
Self splurging is more than encouraged.
Being in a relationship for 5 years has made me self aware about my priorities. I always seem to give more attention to priorities than I do to myself. A large part of my stress stems from not feeling good about myself or not looking up to par. It's okay to take $100 to treat yourself even if you're taking it away from bills. The bills will always be there but you have to remember yourself.
What's the worst that could happen?
This is how I measure the risks I am willing to take. When I left my job at Aspire, I imagined every possible outcome including Corey wanting to leave me. However, I figured in the end, my sanity + what ever opportunities would come my way was way more important than the worst of the worst that could happen. Before we take a leap we usually come up with scenarios of all types of circumstances but the only question that needs to be analyzed is what's the ABSOLUTE worst thing that I can occur once I make this decision. If the absolute worst is somewhat bearable, then it's a jump worth taking.